"Why?" OR "What do you want instead?"

It sometimes feels like there’s a toddler living inside of me. She’s especially interested when something goes wrong.

“WHY?”

She is incessant in her demand to know why.

While working out recently, I was working on correcting the way my body wanted to move; the habit I had gotten into was creating pain.  “Why does my body want to move in a way that hurts?,” I commented to a friend. She replied, simply, “Don’t concern yourself with why, just correct the movement so it no longer has to hurt.”

Huh.

There’s value to introspection and contemplation. Self-awareness is a key component to peace of mind and freedom.  But too much pondering the “why” of something becomes a drain of energy. Once a general sense of intellectual understanding about an experience is reached, time and energy are more valuably applied to what’s wanted now.

What do you want instead?

We create from the energy that we emit – magnets for experiences that reflect our energetic state of being. If our energy is bound to the “why’s” of the past, the greatest likelihood is that we’ll continue to have the same kinds of experiences, over and over again.

Looking back to understand “why” has a false appeal. If I understand, I can fix it or change it or control it – whatever “it” happens to be. Or so I think.  But life is far more complex than I like to admit.  Even if I know WHY, nothing changes until I choose differently.

On the other hand, consciously spending time on creating something new and unknown can seem a little daunting. The intellect far prefers things that are known. Somehow, I have to convince that little toddler within that it’s time to play, to color outside the lines. I have to let myself know that it’s safe, that I am safe, that safety runs far deeper than the next event I am about to experience.